Books/Reading & Coffee

Ok, I must write a post about this, because I really feel like I’m missing out on something here.

You know how books & coffee are a “thing” now? Like, they go together. If you read books, you apparently must drink coffee. There are sooooo many pics & memes & quotes & phrases talk about “books & coffee” being perfect.

Well, I don’t like coffee!!

Every time I see one of these memes, or a gif with the inevitable caption about the harmony between coffee and reading, it just makes me depressed. I want to be like “oh yeah, that’s me, I love books…” but then it’s like “…but I hate coffee. Shoot, I’m a looser. Maybe I should start drinking coffee…”

Seriously, everyone seems to like coffee, in the book world. I hear sooooo many authors talk about taking a break with a cup of coffee, and writing or reading a book. Readers are the same way – coffee and a good book. It’s like a special club I can’t get into, because my tongue will fall off.

Me and my tea or juice (or more often than not, water) will just have to sit on the sidelines, wishing we were cool enough to be in the “coffee club” with the kool kids. Coffee is the shit, and I’m incapable of swallowing it, without a major gag-fest.

Book people like coffee. Writers, authors, & readers alike. *sigh*
Either that, or wine.

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Feb 29th Weirdness

I’m having a bit of an odd day today. Maybe it’s because it’s Friday the 29th, and this day only happens once every four years. I dunno.

A lot of people are superstitious about this particular day. Some believe it’s bad luck to be born on this day, others believe it’s magical if a loved one dies on this day. Some cultures have a tradition where a guy can’t say “no” if his girl proposes to him today, and if he does, he has to pay for the dress (or whatever the bride-to-be decides she wants him to pay for, when she does end up marrying). In the same category, a lot of people believe it’s bad luck to get married or divorced in a leap year.

All that being said, today, and this year, seem to be odd. Out of the norm, and important, somehow.

Maybe that’s why I feel odd? I feel a spiritual tugging deep down, and I can’t figure out why. I feel like something’s about to change, or something is going to happen, or something is coming. Just…something.

I feel nervous, but I feel like I don’t need to be. Like whatever this is, will be good. I dunno.

I just feel…weird. Kinda like I’m about to explode, in a good way. I just have to find the button, cuz I think once I press it, I’ll blow. I just don’t know how to find the damn thing. Like having a word on the tip of your tongue, and you’re just like “come on brain, spit it out!!” Kinda feeling like that inside at the moment. Come on spirit, figure this shit out!

Could just be hormones too, who knows. Weird day.

So, I’ve Written a Book…

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Some of you may know, I’m a writer. I write a ton, and have since I was two.

I’ve never had the nerve to actually publish anything though, and rarely even let other people read what I write. I know, stereotypical, right? A lot of people are the same way.

Well, I’m no exception. I had to get over that whole “what if they don’t liiiiike me?!” thing, and build up the courage to publish…something.

 

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Last year, I joined NaNoWriMo, and loved it! I had a blast, and while I didn’t even come close to finishing the book I started (got like 25,000 words or so), I decided I liked the story I’d come up with, and wanted to keep going. I wrote with the hope I’d be able to publish it, but no concrete plans.

A year later, I’m prepping it for the public!! I’m so nervous, but also extremely excited.

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At the moment, it’s sitting with the beta-readers. I’m hoping to get them all back in January sometime, and have it edited (by my amazing editor hubby), ready to publish sometime in January. Fingers crossed 🙂

Anyway, if you’re a reader, and enjoy following newbie authors, I’d love the support!

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I’ve made accounts under my author name, Roze Wallin – cool, hu? 😉

Anyway, I’m on Goodreads, Twitter, and Google +. I also made a Facebook profile, and an author page.

Please feel free to connect with me anywhere you’d like, and follow my book!

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It’s called Desi Pere, and is the first in the three part Swirling Secrets series. I have a place-holder image already, and am planning on releasing the official cover on January 11th. I designed it myself, and can’t wait to share it! =D
I’ll be putting together a list of blogs willing to participate in the Cover Reveal soon, which is so exciting!
I will also be putting together a Release Blitz, when I have a better idea of when I’ll have it ready to be published – eek! =D
I’m going to be self publishing through Amazon Kindle at first, then Createspace for the paperback copies.
I’m so excited to be sharing this book, and can’t wait to see what people think of it! Even if it’s a total bomb, it’s a ton of fun putting a story out there, and creating something from nothing. Always a treat.

If you’d like to contact me at all about my author/writing stuff, please feel free to shoot me an email, at rozewallin@gmail.com.

Thanks! 😀

 

#ThankfulThursday!

Hiya everybody!  Hopefully your week is going along swimmingly =)

Last week, with all the Thanksgiving posts of inspiration, positive, and reminders to be thankful, my heart was rejuvenated a bit.  I had the idea to make a Thankful Thursday a weekly post, because why keep being thankful limited to one day a year, or every few months?  When Googling it (as I do with any new idea, to make sure I’m not stepping on toes) I saw that it’s already a thing!  How cool is that!  It’s definitely a band-wagon I want to jump on, so I am!

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This is the first of what I hope will be many, many #ThankfulThursday posts.

Today, I’m thankful for my family, all the pets we have, and all the opportunities open to us.  God has blessed us all so much, and I’m so grateful.  I’m thankful for the ability to write blogs like this, and connect with amazing people all over the world.  How amazing is that, to meet and befriend someone across the planet, with a blog.  So crazy, and so amazing.

What are you thankful for this week?

Good Grief, it’s December!

How is it already December!?  This year has flown by so quickly, I can hardly believe it.  I still feel like it’s July.

December’s always been my month of reflection and introspection, so I’m starting that this week.  Going over the past year, all the different events that add up to make this year’s collage of memories.  It’s been a crazy year, that’s for sure!

In addition to that, we’re starting to get ready for Christmas, and enjoying the holiday season.  I love all the snowflakes, and wearing my Christmas earrings! 😀

I’m still deciding whether I want to make a resolution list for next year.  I never seem to do well with them, because life is expectantly unpredictable.  Do you like making resolution lists?

Do you like to look over your year an analyze it?  What do you think about as the year comes to an end?  Any plans for Christmas?

 

Evil Starbucks Cups!!

Hiya, how are you?  Hopefully doing well 🙂

Ok, so unless you’ve been living under a rock the past couple of weeks, you’ve most likely heard the hullabaloo about the cups.  Starbucks holiday cups.

Apparently, the lack of decoration on them, has been taken as an “attack” on Christmas, and by association, Christians.

Cups.

Red cups.

Are you friggin’ kidding me??

Gimme some fish, cuz people need to be smacked.*

What I want to know, is who was the first one to get offended by this.  Can someone point that asshole out, please?

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The most ridiculous part about this being taken as an “attack” on Christianity, Christians, or Christmas, is the fact that previous decorations on Starbucks cups haven’t even been related to Christianity!!!  They’ve been Santa sleighs, or bells, or trees, or snowflakes!  None of which are in the Bible, or have anything to do with the Christ-related part of the holiday!!

  

I just…agh!

People irritate me.

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In case you’re wondering, I am a Christian and *gasp* I’m not offended by the plain red cups.  I think they’re cute.  I don’t tend to get drinks from Starbucks, as I don’t drink coffee, but if I end up in the mood for some white hot chocolate, I won’t let some stupid cups stop me.

Sheesh.  This kinda crap is why people have heart-attacks at 50, and get cancer.  And why they think Christians are nutters with nothing better to do than cause drama.  People need to stop making mountains out of molehills, looking for offense where there is none, and stressing about nothing.  We have real issues to deal with – leave the cups alone!

K, I’m done.  Moving on.  Wanna join me? 🙂

What do you think of this “issue” and offense?  Do you plan to buy Starbucks?  More importantly, whatchya doing for Thanksgiving, since we aren’t even in December yet? 😛

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*Smacking with a fish: This is a phrase we use around our house.  We joke about how people being ridiculous/mean/or have bad attitudes need to be smacked with fish.  Dead fish, if they are being particularly offensive.

Fake Christians ~ Take 1

Hiya, hope you’re doing well.

Today, I’m starting a series I’m calling Fake Christians.  Unfortunately, there are plenty of examples to choose from, and they all make me so upset, I know I’ll have things to say about most of them.

This particular story is (at least when I read it) presented by WorldTruth.TV.  Good site, btw, if you’re looking for stories not published in the mainstream media, or smaller stories.  Like this one.

Basically, a woman wrote into a column in the Denver Post called Ask Amy.  Here’s a cut-out of it, so you can read the woman’s side, and Amy’s advice/response:

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Just, wow.  How can people act like that??  I don’t get it.  How can you call yourself a Christian, then treat your family like crap, and blame THEM for it?  How do people get to the mental place where they stop seeing that they are causing the problems?  Even when this excluded sister is crying, trying to talk through it, coming to her unsympathetic sister for support, it’s still somehow her fault for being different.  Black sheep say what?

Obviously, she wants to connect with her sister and cousins and whomever else they deem good enough to join them on their shopping vacations.  If it’s putting her in tears, her exclusion isn’t a personal choice – it’s being made for her, and then the blame being put on her.

A saying we have around our house, is “smacking someone with a fish” when they are acting wrong.  A dead fish, if it’s particularly ugly behavior.  I really want to smack this woman with a fish…

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As Christians, we are meant to act in love.  When someone is perpetually hurting you, and they refuse to listen, and blame you for the pain they are causing, that’s abuse.  Plain and simple.  An abusive person hurts you, while sitting on their high horse, arrogantly saying “you earned it” or somehow saying their ugly behavior is your fault.  Unfortunately, this point-of-view can always be seen by either party, because typically, each person believes they are correct.  Even an abusive person will perceive themselves as the victim, because they feel justified in their behavior.

Well, that’s where being a Christian comes in – compare yourself to Christ.  Are you acting in a way He would smile at, or would you be ashamed to admit your words, thoughts and actions to Him?  Would He approve and stand behind your behavior?  Would He treat people the way you are?  Did He?

Whether you like it or not, if the answer is no, then you are the one in the wrong, and the one causing the abuse.  Most of the time though, that will never be recognized, because abusive people also tend to be manipulative and controlling, and don’t listen.   There will always be a justification for their abuse, even if they know God/Jesus would not approve.

That’s what gets me – even when they know they’re wrong, and they judge others for acting the exact same way, they are always justified.  It’s infuriating.

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Here’s the thing – ugly people never want to see their own ugliness.  Ever.  It will always be someone else’s fault.  No matter how much you say “you’re hurting me” or “I don’t understand why you’re doing this” it doesn’t matter.  They are corrupted, and will not listen until God intervenes. The only thing you can do with people like the “Sad Sister” in this situation, is walk away, and let God deal with them.

We’ve done this many times with our families and friends, because that was the only way out of the abuse.  Our pleading and requests for respect and fair treatment fell on deaf, arrogant ears, and in the end, we just got hurt.  The only thing to do with that type of abuse, is walk away.  The more you talk, the less they listen.  You simply deepen the seeds of resentment and justification with each word, and make it worse.

Stop looking for love where you’ll only find judgement and pain.  If you’ll never be good enough, then walk away.  It’s done.  That’s my advice to the sister being excluded – walk away.  Ironically, take the “sad” sister’s advice, and find better people to be around, because she has already chosen her position, and nothing and no one will change her mind, except God.  So, let her go, and let God.

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For me, that’s what I choose to do.  I do not allow people to abuse me.  I’ve had enough of it in my life, and I don’t take it any more.  If someone treats me badly and doesn’t want to work on it, I walk away.  I will own up to my mistakes, but I don’t take the blame for someone else acting ugly.  Every relationship is a two way street – I can’t do it all on my own.  If they refuse to listen, and believe themselves superior to me for any reason, I will not have them in my life.  I’m not superior, and neither are you.  We are all worthy of Hell, and (I pray…) hoping for Heaven.

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I don’t see why people feel ok acting like this horrible woman, and I feel very sad for her sister.  Being the black sheep and not fitting in is difficult enough – you’re always aware you’re different.  Being actively excluded though, that hurts.  And by blood family?  That pain never fully heals.  Judging and punishing anyone for being different isn’t ok.  Especially family.

I hope everyone who reads this story, whether it be from this post or someone else’s, learns a valuable lesson – punishing others for being different and then blaming them for making you uncomfortable, is wrong.  If you’re going to act ugly, at least have the guts to own up to it.  Otherwise, get off your high horse, and knock it off.  Your actions are your own – so own them, or change.  Be someone you’d want to be friends with – someone God will be proud of.

If you’re the black sheep, and people want to exclude you, then here’s a secret: you’re better off without them!!  They will never make you happy, and you’ll only feel like the black sheep in their company.  God has people and a place for you, and a lot of times, that is not with the family you’re born into.  Give it up to Him, and let Him lead you to where He meant for you to be.  We all have somewhere we fit in, we just have to find it.  Don’t settle for abuse – choose love, even if that means you’re alone for a while.  Own your life, own your differences, and don’t let anyone make you feel like crap for being different.  You are who God made you to be.  If they can’t see your sparkle, then get out from under their dark cloud.  Only then, will you shine.

Own it – it’s worth it 🙂

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So, are you treating anyone badly?  Are you being treated badly by someone else?  Have you had to leave people behind, because they acted like the “Sad Sister” in the column above?  Feel free to leave your thoughts in the comments below, or just say hi! 🙂

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